Every day it is the same story, my baby cries when I put him down. I cannot get ahead. I just see myself falling further and further behind. I have a hard time getting dinner on the table by the time he gets home. The house is always a mess. He gets home and all he does is complain that I did not do anything again. His threats hang heavy in the air. All I can do is hang my head in shame. I pray that he is in a good mood when he gets home. If he is not, or if he gets drunk enough, his fists come out. So far he has not hurt the kids thankfully. My inside the head voice tells me to run, but I stay as I fear leaving, after all, he is only hurting me. I feel so low like I am no one and I am not worthy of anything else. I feel so stuck and I do not know what to do.
This is a story about physical violence. The victim will bend and more than likely do most things to please their partner. This is walking on eggshells to make sure that they stay in the best mood possible. They will at the same time be emotionally abused, as physical and emotional go together. The abuser is in control and that is where their power stems from.
It takes a victim 7 times of seeking out help before they will leave.
Understanding what abuse is and how to seek out help are key elements in preparing to leave. If this is something that you require assistance with, please call your local shelter, police department, or a good friend and let them know what is going on. All of the above can help you make the best plan for you and your family, as well as keep you safe. That is the most important.
Keeping in mind in most cases, their threats are empty.